by Helen Borel, RN,MFA,PhD
The Baby Monkey Experiment
Decades ago, psychiatric scientists performed a sad experiment. They set up two separate
rooms into each of which they introduced an infant monkey. Only one object, for each of
the infant monkeys to cling to, was installed in each room.
In one otherwise bare empty room, stood a big, flimsy-looking, black wire “mother”
(a construct like a “head” with a “body”, loosely made of metal webbing).
In the second also bare empty room, soft white terrycloth toweling completely covered
a similar “wire mother”.
Both the cold metal and terrycloth “mothers” had nippled bottles of milk attached to the
“body” areas.
The results of this cruel experiment were predictable by any nonscientist with common
sense. The infant simian placed with the “terrycloth mother” drank the milk, cuddled
with the “mother,” and thrived. The infant simian abandoned by the heartless “scientists”
with the cold, “wire mother” shriveled emotionally and developed schizophrenia-like
symptoms.
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The Myth of the “Schizophrenogenic Mother”
Caution: Of course, this ethically-questionable “experiment” took place in an era when the,
now discredited, concept of a so-called “schizophrenogenic mother” was rife in psychiatric
circles. The idea, that a mother alternating, warm “come-to-me-I-love-you” messages with
cold “get-away-from-me, I’ve-no-feeling-for-you” messages confused her child with
painful inconsistency thereby precipitating schizophrenia, though false, damaged the lives
of these mothers on top of the burden they had to bear of seeing their beloved children
descend into worsening psychosis.
Due to this faulty notion, too many mothers of severely ill schizophrenics, so mislabeled,
blamed, and baffled by befuddled psychiatrists, were themselves emotionally wounded while
trying to help their psychotic young adult children who were floundering in a sea of voices
and visions now known to be generated by cerebral pathology.
The Anatomy and Physiology of Major Mental Disorders
The lesson here: Many psychiatric illnesses are genetic, especially psychotic conditions like
bipolar disorder (swings between mania and depression), schizophrenia, and severe chronic
depression with delusions.
Other conditions, like personalities warped by childhood traumas, might be attributable to
actions of adult miscreants toward the developing child.
However, conditions like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Attention Deficit Hyper-
activity Disorder (ADHD), Asperger’s syndrome, Autism, even Shyness, Excessive Anxiety,
and uncontrollable Anger Outbursts as in Borderline patients are all attributable to some
cerebral malfunction, whether anomalous brain anatomy (some distorted or absent key
brain tissue) or disordered brain chemistry (an imbalance between feel-good neurochemicals
and mood-lowering or mood-agitating neurochemicals). Both of the latter anatomical and/or
physiologic disruptions, which interact with each other to produce disordered thoughts and
repetitive strange and dysfunctional behaviors, are known to be etiologic (causative) of
psychiatric illnesses. Not mothers!
Empathic, Interactive PsychoTherapy Improves Suffering Patients’ Lives
Expert, high quality PsychoTherapy that identifies causes of suffering, brings them to
the surface of consciousness, and helps you reformulate a view of who you are which is
healthy and consciously Self-Loving, often reduces and even eliminates mental anguish
and emotional suffering. Which allows you to move on to a healthier you...emotionally,
socially, careerwise, and also on to love-relationship success.
TO HELP YOU TRANSITION FROM EMOTIONAL PAIN
TO FEELING GOOD MOST OF THE TIME
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Whatever emotional distress or psychiatric diagnosis you are living
with, PsychoTherapy will help you feel better and live happier. So don’t
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and better.
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Friday, August 11, 2017
Saturday, August 5, 2017
LONELINESS HURTS.
PsychoTherapy Gets You a Quality Social Life.
by Helen Borel, RN,MFA,PhD
Your loneliness comes from many sources. Fortuitously, PsychoTherapy
helps you retrieve the causes of your isolation. It helps you overcome them.
Then it helps you reach out for human contact and succeed in making friends.
Out of your sessions, as a result, you are able to recognize the difference
between toxic people and those who’d make valuable friends.This awareness,
then, enables you to find and keep just the right love partner.
____________________________________________
You CAN build Social Skills, Gain Friends,
and have A True Love Life NOW!
Find out who you really are and how to
connect with others by entering
YOUR EMOTIONAL COMFORT ZONE
at my PsychDocNYC.com
(More therapy-contact info at the close of this article.)
SOME CAUSES OF LONELINESS
Weak or Unreliable Emotional Attachments from a Troubled Childhood
Self reliance and confidence come from an inner emotional steadiness, a
strength in knowing who you uniquely are. This awareness solidifies, slowly
and surely, in the loving, nurturing emotional zone your mother cradles you
in from birth. It further deepens in the atmosphere of loving paternal and
maternal parents who adapt to you and encourage you to be you as you
grow physically, intellectually and emotionally.
But repeated physical abuse or verbal torture from emotionally immature
or mentally ill parents, or other caretakers, disrupts the evolution of your
Real Self which, unbeknownst to you, slips underground into your
Unconscious. And there it remains, protected from harm but unable to
mature further, until PsychoTherapy helps you bring it into conscious awareness.
Then, when you recognize, welcome, and embrace the magnificence of who
you really are, the profound nature of your Real Self, reaching out to others
gets easier.
Abandonment Experiences
Feelings of isolation and loneliness can come from growing up in a one-parent
family, whether your absent parent died or whether he or she deserted your
family. In childhood, you need the perspectives of both a mother and a father to
gain a well-rounded view of your ever-widening world and the other people
in it. Absent some of these crucial positive influences, you will suffer some
low self-esteem issues that could cause you to isolate from others.
This course of your emotional life, with even more overwhelming feelings
of loss, disruption and abandonment, is worsened if you grew up in an
orphanage, or suffered a negative foster care childhood.
Inborn Shyness
This is genetic. Innate Shyness causes hesitation in reaching out to others.
And when others don’t make the first move with a friendly smile, an invitation,
a willingness to converse, engage and interact, a shy person retreats and then
tends to feel more unwanted.
When these unsuccessful socializings repeat again and again, a shy person
assumes this is further confirmation of his/her “unwantedness” and tends to
retreat to a habitual solitariness. Thus sets in motion a repetitive cycle of
Self-Negation and feelings of Low Self-Worth.
High Creativity
Artistic Personalities often appear to be, or are, “loners”. This is not
necessarily because you as an artist prefer to be alone, nor because you are
antisocial.
It’s because, given a 24-hour day, you sleep 8, you work at a salaried job 8,
and, with travel, miscellanea, meals, and more, there’s little time left to paint,
compose, write, invent, etc. Let alone nurture friendships. It’s difficult,
therefore, for you as a creative being to develop the varied interactive skills
necessary to socialize and make special friends successfully.
Negative Self-Talk
This is a habitual mental health problem that everyone falls into at times.
Some people more than others. However, if you tell these self-negatives to
your brain on a consistent basis and if you are determined to believe these
falsehoods about your Self, not only will you lack peace of mind and be
haunted by anxiety and worry, but your ability to engage others and enjoy
their company will be grossly impaired. Like seeing new people through
a trick mirror that misrepresents them. Like seeing your physical self
distorted, too, by your faulty thinking.
Thus, you can’t trust others with your thoughts and feelings, you can’t
allow yourself to get close to others, if you keep convincing yourself there
is so much wrong with you. This is essentially a kind of paranoia, where
you’re convinced others are viewing you as inferior and experiencing you as
defective because you are projecting your own self-negatives onto others
erroneously. This pathologic ideation results in you assuming that others
view you negatively, that they can’t like you, nor care about you, nor love you.
THERE IS A CURE FOR LONELINESS THROUGH PSYCHOTHERAPY
PsychoTherapy helps you retrieve unresolved traumas, abandonments,
misunderstandings. It helps you straighten out distorted memories and
troubled feelings from early childhood when you had neither the vocabulary
nor the emotional development to fully grasp and describe to yourself what
you were going through.
By positive contrast, PsychoTherapy also helps you retrieve buried memories
of some warm, wonderful, loving times that you unconsciously submerged
to protect them from expected future damage.
Once your past sufferings and joys are emerged, through talk and (sometimes)
tears, through laughter and struggles of growth, through actual new life
experiences and dreams, all of your Real Self is free to feel all your Real Feelings
in the present. Now, being more and more open to your Real True Self, you can
more easily interact with others.
At this stage, as you’ll experience it, your PsychoTherapy will concentrate on
what’s happening NOW in your life. It will focus on who you actually are currently
relating to, on how you can achieve your goal of emergence from your loneliness
and sustain new friendships. Your therapy, then, helps you build on these Self-
solidifying experiences to achieve the love relationship you’ve been longing for.
TO HELP YOU TRANSITION FROM
FEELING LONELY TO BEING SOCIALLY CONNECTED
CALL for my Expert, Compassionate PsychoTherapy**
(212) 873-5640
7 days a week, 12 Noon to 10 pm New York City time
IN-PERSON SESSIONS – Manhattan, New York City
TELEPHONE SESSIONS – NYC, all USA states, and WorldWide
**Low, subsidized fees. **You pay only what you can afford.
...and do visit my
PsychDocNYC.com
Your Emotional Comfort Zone
Whether you’re lonely or suffer any other emotional distress or psychiatric
diagnosis, PsychoTherapy will help you feel better and live happier. So don’t
delay. The sooner you get my help, the faster your life will become better
and better.
(c) Copyright 2017 Dr. Helen Borel. All rights reserved.
by Helen Borel, RN,MFA,PhD
Your loneliness comes from many sources. Fortuitously, PsychoTherapy
helps you retrieve the causes of your isolation. It helps you overcome them.
Then it helps you reach out for human contact and succeed in making friends.
Out of your sessions, as a result, you are able to recognize the difference
between toxic people and those who’d make valuable friends.This awareness,
then, enables you to find and keep just the right love partner.
____________________________________________
You CAN build Social Skills, Gain Friends,
and have A True Love Life NOW!
Find out who you really are and how to
connect with others by entering
YOUR EMOTIONAL COMFORT ZONE
at my PsychDocNYC.com
(More therapy-contact info at the close of this article.)
SOME CAUSES OF LONELINESS
Weak or Unreliable Emotional Attachments from a Troubled Childhood
Self reliance and confidence come from an inner emotional steadiness, a
strength in knowing who you uniquely are. This awareness solidifies, slowly
and surely, in the loving, nurturing emotional zone your mother cradles you
in from birth. It further deepens in the atmosphere of loving paternal and
maternal parents who adapt to you and encourage you to be you as you
grow physically, intellectually and emotionally.
But repeated physical abuse or verbal torture from emotionally immature
or mentally ill parents, or other caretakers, disrupts the evolution of your
Real Self which, unbeknownst to you, slips underground into your
Unconscious. And there it remains, protected from harm but unable to
mature further, until PsychoTherapy helps you bring it into conscious awareness.
Then, when you recognize, welcome, and embrace the magnificence of who
you really are, the profound nature of your Real Self, reaching out to others
gets easier.
Abandonment Experiences
Feelings of isolation and loneliness can come from growing up in a one-parent
family, whether your absent parent died or whether he or she deserted your
family. In childhood, you need the perspectives of both a mother and a father to
gain a well-rounded view of your ever-widening world and the other people
in it. Absent some of these crucial positive influences, you will suffer some
low self-esteem issues that could cause you to isolate from others.
This course of your emotional life, with even more overwhelming feelings
of loss, disruption and abandonment, is worsened if you grew up in an
orphanage, or suffered a negative foster care childhood.
Inborn Shyness
This is genetic. Innate Shyness causes hesitation in reaching out to others.
And when others don’t make the first move with a friendly smile, an invitation,
a willingness to converse, engage and interact, a shy person retreats and then
tends to feel more unwanted.
When these unsuccessful socializings repeat again and again, a shy person
assumes this is further confirmation of his/her “unwantedness” and tends to
retreat to a habitual solitariness. Thus sets in motion a repetitive cycle of
Self-Negation and feelings of Low Self-Worth.
High Creativity
Artistic Personalities often appear to be, or are, “loners”. This is not
necessarily because you as an artist prefer to be alone, nor because you are
antisocial.
It’s because, given a 24-hour day, you sleep 8, you work at a salaried job 8,
and, with travel, miscellanea, meals, and more, there’s little time left to paint,
compose, write, invent, etc. Let alone nurture friendships. It’s difficult,
therefore, for you as a creative being to develop the varied interactive skills
necessary to socialize and make special friends successfully.
Negative Self-Talk
This is a habitual mental health problem that everyone falls into at times.
Some people more than others. However, if you tell these self-negatives to
your brain on a consistent basis and if you are determined to believe these
falsehoods about your Self, not only will you lack peace of mind and be
haunted by anxiety and worry, but your ability to engage others and enjoy
their company will be grossly impaired. Like seeing new people through
a trick mirror that misrepresents them. Like seeing your physical self
distorted, too, by your faulty thinking.
Thus, you can’t trust others with your thoughts and feelings, you can’t
allow yourself to get close to others, if you keep convincing yourself there
is so much wrong with you. This is essentially a kind of paranoia, where
you’re convinced others are viewing you as inferior and experiencing you as
defective because you are projecting your own self-negatives onto others
erroneously. This pathologic ideation results in you assuming that others
view you negatively, that they can’t like you, nor care about you, nor love you.
THERE IS A CURE FOR LONELINESS THROUGH PSYCHOTHERAPY
PsychoTherapy helps you retrieve unresolved traumas, abandonments,
misunderstandings. It helps you straighten out distorted memories and
troubled feelings from early childhood when you had neither the vocabulary
nor the emotional development to fully grasp and describe to yourself what
you were going through.
By positive contrast, PsychoTherapy also helps you retrieve buried memories
of some warm, wonderful, loving times that you unconsciously submerged
to protect them from expected future damage.
Once your past sufferings and joys are emerged, through talk and (sometimes)
tears, through laughter and struggles of growth, through actual new life
experiences and dreams, all of your Real Self is free to feel all your Real Feelings
in the present. Now, being more and more open to your Real True Self, you can
more easily interact with others.
At this stage, as you’ll experience it, your PsychoTherapy will concentrate on
what’s happening NOW in your life. It will focus on who you actually are currently
relating to, on how you can achieve your goal of emergence from your loneliness
and sustain new friendships. Your therapy, then, helps you build on these Self-
solidifying experiences to achieve the love relationship you’ve been longing for.
TO HELP YOU TRANSITION FROM
FEELING LONELY TO BEING SOCIALLY CONNECTED
CALL for my Expert, Compassionate PsychoTherapy**
(212) 873-5640
7 days a week, 12 Noon to 10 pm New York City time
IN-PERSON SESSIONS – Manhattan, New York City
TELEPHONE SESSIONS – NYC, all USA states, and WorldWide
**Low, subsidized fees. **You pay only what you can afford.
...and do visit my
PsychDocNYC.com
Your Emotional Comfort Zone
Whether you’re lonely or suffer any other emotional distress or psychiatric
diagnosis, PsychoTherapy will help you feel better and live happier. So don’t
delay. The sooner you get my help, the faster your life will become better
and better.
(c) Copyright 2017 Dr. Helen Borel. All rights reserved.
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